Books like Don't Believe Everything You Think — picked by fans

First of all, Jen Sincero’s voice is hilarious, down-to-earth, and completely refreshing.

She basically grabs you by the shoulders and tells you to stop messing around. I remember laughing out loud while reading this. What I love most is that she shares her own journey in an honest, testimony-style way, so it doesn't feel preachy. Instead, it feels relatable.

Her writing style is great in that it makes you see the small ways you may be downplaying your ambition or talking yourself out of bigger goals. It’s the perfect reality check when you need to stop doubting yourself and start confidently going after what you want.

There was a season in my life and business where I prayed for growth, then hesitated when it showed up because I got scared. That’s why Year of Yes hit me so deeply.

Shonda Rhimes, one of the most powerful women in Hollywood, admits she was terrified of saying yes to the very opportunities she worked so hard to create. That kind of honesty is refreshing.

Her “Year of Yes" challenge is funny, vulnerable, and motivating. It reminded me that fear doesn’t disappear just because you become successful (if anything, it grows!). What changes everything is the decision to move anyway. Shonda pushed me to stop shrinking and start leaning into the rooms and responsibilities I’d earned.

If you’ve been waiting to feel ready, this is your reminder that stepping into your next level starts with saying yes to yourself.

I’ve read this book twice and own it in both physical and audio form; that’s how much I love it.

It stopped me in my tracks because it puts words to something we all experience but don’t always admit: getting in our own way! Brianna Wiest explains that self-sabotage isn’t a character flaw; it’s often a coping mechanism. That perspective really shifted things for me.

As I’ve built my business and navigated life, there have been so many moments where I would make excuses and self-sabotage, sometimes without even realizing it. Brianna’s approach helped me identify when I do and call myself out so I could move forward.

If you’ve been holding yourself back from your next level due to self-sabotage, this book will challenge you in the best way.

I’ve read this book multiple times, and every time it gives me a mindset reset.

Brian Tracy is direct; if you want different results, you have to take ownership of your habits. As a mom, wife, and business owner juggling a lot with limited time, I was challenged in a good way. It reminded me that discipline isn’t about being extreme or perfect. It’s about small, consistent actions.

Discipline and grace can coexist. Some seasons require pushing forward. Other seasons require rest. The power is in knowing the difference. Pursuing big goals means showing up consistently, not flawlessly.

This book is practical, honest, and a helpful reset when I feel myself drifting into “I’ll do it later” mode.

Les Fehmi (recently deceased, to my great sadness) was a mentor of mine from the early days of biofeedback training decades ago. He was truly one of the great pioneers in the study of consciousness and the brain. This book, co-authored with Jim Robbins, is a succinct presentation of his brilliant discoveries about the deep mysteries of attention as a gateway to experiencing the most subtle aspects of consciousness in general.

My Big Welcome illustrates how kindness can help children overcome anxiety when they’re starting at a new school, moving, meeting new people. The story introduces a number of classroom situations that a newcomer might face. Emilia, the new girl, is welcomed with warmth and kindness. And the bright illustrations give off such a positive vibe.

I love the premise of this heavily illustrated, diary-style chapter book: It not only teaches kids that even monsters can get anxiety—but also that they can do something about it through the author’s method of breathing and mindfulness.

I loved how thorough it was, taking time to really lead kids through the process (what he calls Stop, Take Time To Think) as she considers her fears about giving a speech in school and whether those fears will actually happen—a pretty mature technique that I wish I had known how to tackle when I was growing up! I also loved the sweet relationship she had with her grandma (Bobbe) and how her whole family rallied around her to conquer her anxiety and reframe what it means to be brave. 

Whether in her book or her writing for BuzzFeed, Koul’s voice and humor are always instantly recognizable. Their distinctive tone is right there in the title. In her debut collection, Koul explores growing up as a South Asian woman in Canada, braiding her personal narrative with deft cultural critique. Essay collections rarely have such a strong sense of characters as this one does—Koul’s parents, especially, are deeply felt and sharply rendered figures who appear across the essays as sources of humor, pathos, and exasperation.

He sums it up in one brilliant sentence: 

“Envy is the only one of the 7 deadly sins that isn’t fun.”

The author is a great observer of the snobbery that surrounds you in daily life, from fashion snobs to intellectual snobs. He’s a “snobographer,” according to one reviewer.

This book invites you to laugh at the snobs, not to change your thinking. Pointing fingers feels good in the short run, but my books show that it hurts you in the long run. We all have the one-upping impulse because we’re all mammals. If you hate people who do this, you end up hating yourself. You may insist that you don’t care about status, but moral superiority is just more one-upping.

So enjoy with caution.

In my own book, The Buddha in the Classroom, I tell the story of my fortuitous and life-changing first encounter with this book, while in my first year of college. Foreshadowing my career as a teacher of eastern philosophy, it lit the fire of my ongoing interest in Zen and had a profound impact on my personal journey into meditation. I sensed that the ironic title held some precious secret. I would discover, within its pages, the magic that happens when we learn to lean into the unknown, rather than fight against it. Indeed, the search for assuredness in life only seems to perpetuate the angst that is at the root of all the anxiety that characterizes the human condition... at least for many of us! Through letting go, we become more free.