I've been fascinated by relationships and mental health since I was seven years old, when I read I'm OK, You're OK cover to cover. That fascination followed me into over twenty years living in consensually non-monogamous relationships—where jealousy nearly ended my first attempt at it. I know what it feels like to cry in the corner, hide under the covers, and wonder if you're the only one who can't figure this out. You're not. I built Loving Without Boundaries because I wanted every person navigating an open relationship to have the tools nobody ever taught any of us. I hope these books help you the way they've helped me.
This is the book that shapes how I show up in every relationship in my life—personal, professional, with friends, family, and the clients I coach.
I've built on these concepts even further in my own work, but the bones Rosenberg lays out are so solid that I credit them with genuinely saving friendships and relationships I care about.
And on the nights when a relationship still doesn't go the way I hoped, this is the book that lets me know I did everything I could. That's what actually helps me sleep at night. Truly.
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What is Violent Communication?
If “violent” means acting in ways that result in hurt or harm, then much of how we communicate—judging others, bullying, having racial bias, blaming, finger pointing, discriminating, speaking without listening, criticizing others or ourselves, name-calling, reacting when angry, using political rhetoric, being defensive or judging who’s “good/bad” or what’s “right/wrong” with people—could indeed be called “violent communication.”
What is Nonviolent Communication?
Nonviolent Communication is the integration of four things:
• Consciousness: a set of principles that support living a life of…
I've read this book at least three times through—and when I was working through a specific jealousy situation with a childhood friend as an adult, I hired the author, Dr. Susan Forward, to work with me directly.
That's how much I trust what's in these pages. This book is my bible for moving relationships of every kind—friendships, family, romantic, professional—out of toxic and dysfunctional dynamics and into healthy ones. I recommend it to absolutely anyone who will listen.
Bestselling author Dr Susan Forward shows readers how to defend themselves against manipulation.
Forward provides practical, powerful strategies for blackmail targets, including practice scenarios and communication techniques that will break the blackmail cycle for good.
Broken Boots, Redeemed Soul: A Veteran’s War with Sin and Salvation
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Brian Lofton,
Broken Boots, Redeemed Soul: A Veteran’s War with Sin and Salvation, is a raw and faith-centered memoir about life after military service—and the internal battles many never see. Brian Lofton shares his journey through addiction, shame, identity loss, and spiritual distance, revealing how the hardest struggles often begin after…
I'm a recovering Catholic, and if you know, you know—a whole lifetime of guilt, shame, and seeking approval baked in from an early age, layered on top of some real dysfunction in my family of origin.
This book is what taught me to stop chasing approval from people, including ones who were never emotionally available to give it, and start looking within instead. I fell in love with Byron Katie's raw, honest origin story, and I still use The Work—her four questions—in my own life and in my work with clients to this day.
In Loving What Is, bestselling author Byron Katie introduced thousands of people to her simple and profound method of finding happiness through questioning the mind. Now, I Need Your Love—Is That True? examines a universal, age-old source of anxiety: our relationships with others. In this groundbreaking book, Katie helps you question everything you have been taught to do to gain love and approval. In doing this, you discover how to find genuine love and connection.
The usual advice offered in self-help books and reinforced by our culture advocates a stressful, all-consuming quest for love and approval. We are advised to…
I've used this book to rise strong more times than I can count—after infertility, after losing both of my parents, after consciously uncoupling from a decade-long partner, after every gut-punch entrepreneurship has handed me along the way.
I am deeply in love with Brené Brown's entire body of work—I've seen her speak live in Washington, DC, twice—but this is the one that feels the most personal to me, like she wrote it about my own life. Honestly? I want to be Brené Brown when I grow up.
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Social scientist Brené Brown has ignited a global conversation on courage, vulnerability, shame, and worthiness. Her pioneering work uncovered a profound truth: Vulnerability—the willingness to show up and be seen with no guarantee of outcome—is the only path to more love, belonging, creativity, and joy. But living a brave life is not always easy: We are, inevitably, going to stumble and fall.
I’d been saying, almost tentatively, that “sex is fun and pleasure is good for you” for years before I ever read this book.
So imagine my shock seeing that exact sentiment written in black and white, right in the introduction, by a renowned author. It was a genuine game changer. I finally had permission, in print, for something I already believed deep down but was scared to say out loud.
What this book did wasn’t JUST describe who my husband and I already were; it gave us language for it. It was the first time I ever heard of the word “polyamory," and my life has been forever changed. It’s often called the “bible of polyamory” for good reason, and I still recommend it to almost every client who walks through my door.
I also got to tell author Janet Hardy live on stage that their book changed my life when we were on a panel together. Amazing!
The classic guide to love, sex, and intimacy beyond the limits of conventional monogamy has been fully updated to reflect today’s modern attitudes and the latest information on nontraditional relationships.
“One of the most useful relationship books you could ever read, no matter what your lifestyle choices. It’s chock-full of great information about communication, jealousy, asking for what you want, and maintaining a relationship with integrity.”—Annie Sprinkle, PhD, sexologist and author of Dr. Sprinkle’s Spectacular Sex
For 20 years The Ethical Slut—widely known as the “Poly Bible”—has dispelled myths and showed curious readers how to maintain a successful polyamorous lifestyle…
Jealousy doesn't mean something is wrong with you—it means you were never taught the skills to handle it. Jealousy Survival Guide gives readers a practical guidebook for recognizing jealousy and insecurity as they arise, with tools for working through those feelings before they damage a relationship. Kitty Chambliss focuses on jealousy in consensually non-monogamous and polyamorous relationships, combining her own experience with proven techniques.
The book walks readers through a positive mindset foundation, the S.O.S. framework for facing jealousy in the moment, and four core strategies—defusion, compassion, commitment to core values, and communication—for turning jealousy into an opportunity for growth rather than a threat. Written with frank honesty and zero shame—real tools for real relationships, whatever shape yours takes.
Are you tired of feeling tired? In a world that never stops, Drowning Lifeguards is a compassionate, down-to-earth guide for anyone struggling with exhaustion, burnout, or chronic fatigue.
Written by Ruth Hull, homoeopathic doctor, herbalist, counsellor, and author of five health-science textbooks, it offers a fresh, human approach to healing.…
