Will I love The Ethical Slut?

I’d been saying, almost tentatively, that “sex is fun and pleasure is good for you” for years before I ever read this book.

So imagine my shock seeing that exact sentiment written in black and white, right in the introduction, by a renowned author. It was a genuine game changer. I finally had permission, in print, for something I already believed deep down but was scared to say out loud.

What this book did wasn’t JUST describe who my husband and I already were; it gave us language for it. It was the first time I ever heard of the… show more.

I deeply appreciate Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy's book for its courage in challenging societal norms around relationships.

The book's exploration of ethical non-monogamy pushes me to examine my personal boundaries and expectations. I value its discussion not just on sexuality but on all relationship dynamics.

The book resonates with me intensely, serving as a catalyst for self-discovery and understanding, which is why I hold it in such high regard.

When I first went to Burning Man in 2004 I met some wonderful friends committed to Polyamory.

As I was in the middle of my own sexual journey I found their lives a real challenge to old ideas around monogamy. They recommended The Ethical Slut and I read it avidly – it seemed to open up a whole new way of loving, of living, and of self-acceptance. It’s now widely considered a classic, and this 20th Anniversary edition updates with particular emphasis on issues around consent.

If you are curious, dive in!

In my decades of teaching tantric sex, one thing has become clear: people share the same sexual fantasies, and there are only about a handful of categories they fit in to.

One in particular is group sex or having sex with others than our primary partner. I’m not advocating infidelity, nor do I believe that an open relationship is somehow superior to monogamy. However, for those couples who long for non-monogamous exploration, this classic book by two pioneering authors offers a comprehensive and practical guide to sexual freedom in relationships.

They offer tools on how to deal with sexual jealousy… show more.