Book description
Be nice, but not too nice. Be successful, but not too successful. Just be likeable. Whatever that means?
Women are stuck in an impossible bind. At work, strong women are criticized for being cold, and warm women are seen as pushovers. An award-winning journalist examines this fundamental paradox and empowers…
Why read it?
1 author picked The Likeability Trap as one of their favorite books. Why do they recommend it?
The moment I started reading this book, I thought, “YES! EXACTLY!” Alicia Menendez has done a really compelling job of showing how and why women are under so much pressure to be amiable and likable, especially on the job, and how these expectations can make it hard to move forward.
This book reminded me that we don’t have to be limited to “strong and cold” or “weak and warm.” We can succeed by being ourselves.
From Cecilia's list on The most inspirational books for women (especially for women of color).
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