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“A beautiful book about a mother and son…I really loved this book.”—Rumaan Alam on The TODAY Show

“My first great read of 2022…[Will] make you cringe with recognition and melt with longing.” —Jennifer Weiner

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Neel Patel and I grew up in similar parts of the Midwest, are around the same age, and are both Gujarati, so when I read this novel, I felt so seen. He deftly covers a young man’s journey of coming out to his traditional family, while also sharing the perspective of the mother discovering who her son really is, but this book has many more layers beyond those. The little details that Patel seamlessly weaves throughout the novel including how the family interacts with one another and how the main character’s childhood is described reminded me of my own family…

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