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Inherited family trauma is currently an area of growing interest, as science increasingly explores what we know intuitively: that the effects of trauma can pass from one generation to the next, and that the answers to some of our greatest life problems often lie not within our own story, but…

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4 authors picked It Didn't Start With You as one of their favorite books. Why do they recommend it?

This is a groundbreaking book that reshaped my understanding of family trauma and its impact across generations. It introduced me to the concept of inherited family trauma and offered insightful methods to uncover and break these cycles. This book not only educated me but also provided a path toward healing and self-discovery.

Reading it was an educational experience, revealing how much of who we are is influenced by the stories of our ancestors. Wolynn’s compassionate approach made complex psychological theories accessible and applicable to my life. I highly recommend it to anyone interested in exploring their family history and healing…

This book makes a big impact when we think about attachment trauma and generational trauma. To think about trauma living in our cells and being passed from one generation to the next adds depth and perspective on how to break the negative cycle an adult daughter is experiencing.

I like this book’s look at the past to inform how mother-daughter conflict might be showing up now, giving readers another layer of thought on how to heal attachment trauma. 

This is the first book I read on the topic of inherited trauma, and it blew my mind.

The author offers many examples of patterns that are handed down from past generations, along with a worksheet that helps you dive into your own family patterns. It’s easy to read and understand, and it is truly life-changing information. It’s the first book I always recommend whenever anyone asks.

I had the opportunity to interview Mark Wolynn, and his knowledge and experience are far-reaching and so very helpful in illuminating those puzzling things that have defied explanation.

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Looks further back than the previous book and how the trauma of previous generations can be passed down the line. The first half is full of examples of how even unknown incidents are reflected in the problems of Wolynn’s patients today. The second half is about how to use these insights to heal. I use it a lot with my clients and they are full of praise for the book. It is particularly helpful to understand how your grandparents impacted your parents. I used this book to throw light onto how the First World War and my Great Uncle’s death…

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