Books like We Crossed a Bridge and It Trembled

I read Maalouf's book many years ago and it remains one of the best books I have ever read about identity. It helps that he is a gifted writer and that Maalouf's story is so compelling.

Damascus-born Nizar Qabbani, a lawyer by training, abandoned a career in diplomacy in the late 1960s to become one of the Arab world’s most beloved poets. Both his sensual and political poems carry seeds of defiance, rebellion and a quest for liberation from autocratic institutions and rigid social norms. This edition reproduces Qabbani’s own handwritten text of the selected poems.

The Shell is a peek into both the horrors and absurdities of totalitarian regimes told in the form of a prison diary kept by the author. Khalifa, a Christian by birth and an atheist, was mistaken (or perhaps not, given what I learned about the Assad regime in the course of my work) for a radical Islamist, arrested and locked up in the notorious Tadmor desert prison, more accurately a death camp. The book reveals the horrific consequences of the logic and methods of the Assad family and other dictators in the Middle East and beyond: Anyone suspected of harboring a hint of opposition to the ruler will be labeled a terrorist and traitor, crushed and turned into an example to instill fear in the wider population.

Few novels have made me think as deeply about family, identity, and inherited expectations as A Woman Is No Man.

What stayed with me wasn't just the story itself, but the quiet emotional weight carried by its characters. I appreciated the compassion Etaf Rum brings to each of them, even when their choices are difficult to understand.

I found myself thinking about the expectations we inherit from our families and cultures, and how easily they can pass from one generation to the next. Sometimes, questioning those expectations can feel like you're questioning the people you love—or even giving up a part of yourself.

This book reminded me that finding your own voice often begins with having the courage to question the stories you've always been told.

Over the past forty-plus years, the Middle East has seen more than its due of wars and chaos. Kim Ghattas, a Lebanese journalist who currently writes for The Atlantic, writes in Black Wave of the impact throughout the Middle East of three heavy-duty events—the fall of the Shah of Iran and his replacement by Ayatollah Khomeini’s Islamic Republic, the attack on the Grand Mosque of Mecca by a Saudi Arabian fundamentalist, and the Soviet invasion of Afghanistan, and gives a sense of the why and the how behind the events she documents.

Ghattas tracks the impact of these events throughout Iran and Afghanistan but also in Pakistan, Lebanon, Iraq, and Egypt. She handles the sheer volume of material by focusing on the repression of regimes and the ideologies they represent as seen through the voices of novelists, journalists, intellectuals, and religious figures. Her account emphasizes issues often seen as… show more.

This book is an amazing introduction to the Middle East, despite it being written decades ago.

When I first lived in the Middle East, I realized that I had to learn a whole new framework of customs, practices, and expectations if I wanted to fit in. This book is still the best guide to values and practices, despite many changes since it was written.

Newly-married to a graduate student in anthropology at the University of Chicago, Elizabeth Fernea traveled to a Shia Muslim village in faraway Iraq in the mid-1960s. While Bob Fernea sets out to meet the officials in the town and surrounding area, Elizabeth is isolated in a small house, hindered by little local Arabic and being new and foreign as she works to make friends. The most respected and powerful man in the village is the local sheikh. 

Unfortunately, Elizabeth doesn’t know what proper behavior for a… show more.

First, I need to explain that the title of this book is deceptive as Riverbend, an Iraqi tech expert, is a well-educated young woman, not a girl. The book is taken from her blog, written from August 2003 through September 2004, and details the changes that war between Saddam Hussein and American forces brings to Iraq.

I lived in the US during these years and followed the news closely as the US organized and launched its attack on Saddam Hussein’s regime with “shock and awe”. However, Riverbend’s account taught me far more than all the media accounts. Her formerly quiet life as a computer tech ends as a woman is no longer allowed to come into the office, or even be safely seen on the street. Almost every page contains contrasts of Iraqi everyday life as lived by her family with the changes the invasion brings—changes no U.S. reader was… show more.

This book brilliantly depicts life in Iranian mountain villages. Erica Friedl has spent years on and off over decades living quietly among her friends in Deh Koh.

Friedl, an anthropologist, writes with feeling and telling detail as she tells of her friends and neighbors. As I read her “stories,” the women in Deh Koh ceased to be characters in a book but people with concerns that helped me understand how their motivations inspired actions.

I especially loved the story about the woman who was now approaching middle-age and was expected to stop having physical relations with her husband. She loved her husband, and he loved her, and sex was an expression of her love. She couldn’t give him up. Then, she became pregnant!

I read with fascination as Friedl’s expressive account of Iranian life and the connections between men, women, their children, larger families, and neighbors played out in small… show more.

I love the title, I enjoyed the historical sweep of his understanding of human rights, and I admire the no-nonsense politics.

I also appreciate it when a thinker risks communicating in plain language, and I found the messaging both convincing and energizing. 

Although this picture book is a bit dark and bleak for very young readers, Stepping Stones is a uniquely beautiful depiction of the refugee’s journey. The illustrations were inspired by the stone artwork of Syrian artist Nizar Ali Badr. Stones, like trees, appear to have an ancient power to tell difficult stories like no other. I love that this book focuses not only on the hardships and horrors, but also on the beauties and rituals of the life and culture left behind. So many children will have known only conflict in their short lives, and it is important that they – and the rest of us, too – learn that there was so much more, before. The story is poetically told in both English and Arabic.