Will I love Finite and Infinite Games?

This rocked my world.

As an analytical person, I loved Carse’s precise logic—that every human activity can be seen as either a finite game, played to win and end the game, or an infinite game, played to keep playing. Simple. Devastating.

What stopped me cold was seeing myself in it—when I was playing to dominate, demean others so they’d shrink, and I could feel bigger, transacting rather than connecting. Carse gave me a framework to see that honestly, and to choose differently—to play to connect, to stay in the game with everyone around me.

I have never seen life the… show more.

Finite games aim at winning, whereby the game is over. Infinite games aim at continuing the play and are never over.

One’s career is a finite game that ends with success; one’s life is an infinite game that aims at continuation. What does this have to do with political rhetoric?

Some people make arguments in order to win them, while other people offer arguments in order to continue the game of argumentation. Some people tell stories for power or profit, while others tell stories to elicit other stories and keep the game going. Philosopher James Carse argues that we treat… show more.

After the first edition of Psychology for a Better World was published, I was on the search for a symbol or metaphor to capture the drive of so many people to contribute to the common good. It needed to be something that worked in secular settings and would resonate with the big social movements for the environment, justice, and wellbeing. I heard Carse speak about the infinite game on a podcast and immediately bought his book.

The notion is simple – in life, there are at least two kinds of games: finite games in which the object is to win,… show more.