Why am I passionate about this?

As author and editor of six books about cemeteries, I have visited gravesites all around the world, from the world-famous to little family burial grounds to tombs tucked inside churches. On my travels, I’ve collected more than 300 books about cemeteries. My absolute favorites are the memoirs in which people—who are as passionate about cemeteries as I am—take me along on their graveyard adventures. I want to know what cemeteries mean to people, whether they’re travelers like me, or grew up in cemeteries, or worked in them, or are fiercely curious about the inequities that follow us to the grave. So many cemeteries, so little time!


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Still Wish You Were Here

By Loren Rhoads ,

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What is my book about?

Loren Rhoads stumbled unexpectedly into a cemetery in Ann Arbor, Michigan, in the 1980s. That experience led her to burial…

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Loren Rhoads Why I love this book

Père-Lachaise was the second international cemetery I ever visited. It made me fall in love with the cemetery's history, celebrities, and amazing sculptures.

Those things are all touched on in this charming little book, written and photographed by the cemetery's curator. I'm fascinated by the author's complicated and varied job: from showing foreign dignitaries around to comforting families and arranging burials to dealing with international tourists who want to treat the cemetery like Disneyland.

Of course, he's compensated by living with his family inside the cemetery itself. It's difficult not to be jealous of such a sweet gig.

By Benoît Gallot , Daniel Casanave (illustrator) , Arielle Aaronson (translator)

Why should I read it?

1 author picked The Secret Life of a Cemetery as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?


'The Secret Life of a Cemetery is no maudlin reflection on death and remembrance...With its fox cubs and anecdotes (it) allows us a privileged glimpse of Gallot's world, full of wonder and life.'-The Observer

From the head curator of the most famous cemetery in the world-a moving and "enchanting" (Guardian) story about a place where joy, grief, and wild nature converge in unexpected and inspiring ways.

For Benoit Gallot, Pere Lachaise is best explored without a guide: You're guaranteed to lose your way. You'll feel as though you've stepped out of time, out of Paris, and into another place entirely.…


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Loren Rhoads Why I love this book

I am so envious of Tui Snider!

She has been traveling around and around the globe. At every port of call, she skips the souvenir stands and heads for the cemeteries. Because she's a member of the Association for Gravestone Studies, she can often link up with local taphophiles for personalized burial ground tours. Reading her adventures is so much fun!

There aren't exactly 80 graves in this book, but Tui does explore from Texas to Egypt, from Singapore to Portugal, and from Petra to Transylvania. She even leads tours of cemeteries in Italy each summer. She's inspired me to make plans to hit the road. There are so many cemeteries yet for me to see.

By Tui Snider ,

Why should I read it?

1 author picked Around the World in 80 Graves as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

Around the World in 80 Graves shows readers that some of the best roadside attractions aren’t neon billboards or giant balls of twine—they’re historic cemeteries.Join author Tui Snider on a journey through unusual, unforgettable burial grounds—from Texas to Transylvania, the jungles of Malaysia to the South Pacific, the ancient tombs of Egypt, and even the Arctic Circle.Along the way, she dodges a would-be kidnapper, meets the grieving parents of a serial killer’s victim, encounters endangered butterflies and venomous snakes, visits a mysterious space alien grave in Texas, and even gets mistaken for a ghost.With her signature blend of humor, curiosity,…


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A Portrait of the Scientist as a Young Woman by Lindy Elkins-Tanton,

A Portrait of the Scientist as a Young Woman explores how a philosophy of life can be built from the lessons of the natural world. Amid a childhood of trauma, Lindy Elkins-Tanton fell in love with science as a means of healing and consolation. She takes us from the wilds…

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Loren Rhoads Why I love this book

I grew up down the road from the small-town cemetery where my family was buried.

In contrast, Rachael Hanel's father was a small-town cemetery caretaker. As a child, she helped him collect the silk flowers so he could mow around gravestones. Rachael studied other people's grief and thought she was comfortable with it. Then her father suddenly died of cancer, and her perfect family disintegrated.

Hanel's Midwestern distrust of emotions is very familiar to me. Rereading this book—before and after my own father's death—completely altered the way it affected me. Be prepared if your own grief is still fresh.

By Rachael Hanel ,

Why should I read it?

1 author picked We'll Be the Last Ones to Let You Down as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?


Rachael Hanel's name was inscribed on a gravestone when she was eleven years old. Yet this wasn't at all unusual in her world: her father was a gravedigger in the small Minnesota town of Waseca, and death was her family's business. Her parents were forty-two years old and in good health when they erected their gravestone-Rachael's name was simply a branch on the sprawling family tree etched on the back of the stone. As she puts it: I grew up in cemeteries.

And you don't grow up in cemeteries-surrounded by headstones and stories, questions, curiosity-without becoming an adept and sensitive…


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Loren Rhoads Why I love this book

Mariana Enriquez is wild.

I learned a lot reading her memoir, from the word for a sexual attraction to statues (agalmatophilia) to the fact that it was Diego Rivera who named Catrina, the elegant female skeleton in the tight dress.

Enriquez visited a lot of cemeteries that I've only read about and others that I've never heard of, all the while writing passionately about indigenous erasure in colonial cemeteries, the recovery of the bodies of Argentina’s Disappeared, and the history and traditions of all the countries she visits. I was fascinated to explore the perspective of a cemetery tourist who isn't American or European.

By Mariana Enriquez , Megan McDowell (translator) ,

Why should I read it?

1 author picked Somebody Is Walking on Your Grave as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

In Somebody is Walking on Your Grave, Mariana Enriquez blends journalistic rigour and her fascination with the macabre as we encounter famous graveyards steeped in history, such as Montparnasse in Paris, Highgate in London, and the Jewish cemetery in Prague, as well as more remote, decrepit, hidden, or secretly beautiful ones. These pages are full of the graves of famous figures - Elvis in Memphis, Karl Marx in London - mournful sculptures, traces of voodoo, catacombs, skeletons and an array of legends and stories. Mariana's personal journey weaves through haunting narratives, transforming burial grounds into spaces of reflection, obsession, and…


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American Panic by Mark Stein,

American Panic explores questions unanswered in other books about political panics from our nation’s past and turbulent present. The overall question being: Why do some people panic when others don’t? Political panic has traditionally been associated with lack of education, lack of wealth, or other demographics – none of which…

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Loren Rhoads Why I love this book

When one unaffordable hospital stay could unhouse any of us, this cemetery memoir raises issues I’d never considered.

By volunteering with homeless organizations and visiting street hospices, Amy Shea delves into the myriad ways cities dispose of their poor. She struggles with her curiosity about her subjects and her right (and privilege) to tell their stories. That aspect of the book intrigued me.

Originally, I felt as if she was centering herself in the narrative, but at some point, I found it liberating, giving her readers (and myself) permission to ask questions and search for ways to help, even if the subjects were unfamiliar or distant to ourselves.

Her memoir was the reverse of othering: inviting us to participate in solutions still being discovered.

By Amy Shea ,

Why should I read it?

1 author picked Too Poor to Die as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

Death is the great equalizer, but not all deaths are created equal. In recent years, there has been an increased interest and advocacy concerning end-of-life and after-death care. An increasing number of individuals and organizations from health care to the funeral and death care industries are working to promote and encourage people to consider their end-of-life wishes. Yet, there are limits to who these efforts reach and who can access such resources. These conversations come from a place of good intentions, but also from a place of privilege.

Too Poor to Die: The Hidden Realities of Dying in the Margins,…


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Still Wish You Were Here

By Loren Rhoads ,

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What is my book about?

Loren Rhoads stumbled unexpectedly into a cemetery in Ann Arbor, Michigan, in the 1980s. That experience led her to burial grounds from the California Gold Country to Paris, Rome, Barcelona, Singapore, Tokyo, and beyond. Whether uncovering history, searching for celebrities, chasing ghosts, or facing the reality of death, Loren invites you along on her adventures.

This cemetery memoir—part travel memoir, part cemetery history—contains 35 graveyard travel essays that visit more than 50 burial grounds, churchyards, and gravesites around the globe. Still Wish You Were Here proves that you can take the girl out of the graveyard, but you can’t take the graveyard out of the girl.

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